Couples Coaching
Break the Patterns That Keep You Stuck
Strategic relationship coaching for dual-career couples who want clearer communication, effective repair, and a partnership that works under real-world demands.
Based in San Francisco and working globally in English and Italian
Why professional success often creates relational distance
For high-functioning couples, the same traits that drive career excellence—high standards and logic-based problem-solving—can often lead to "Roommate Syndrome" or emotional disconnection at home. When both partners carry high external responsibility, the relationship is frequently the first place where the "overflow" of stress and invisible labor appears. Couples often arrive at coaching not because the relationship is broken, but because what once worked no longer does.
Common challenges for dual-career couples include:
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Treating the relationship as a logistical project to be managed rather than a bond to be nurtured.
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Small disagreements escalate quickly because both partners are operating from a place of residual burnout or fatigue.
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Difficulty shifting from a high-stakes professional mindset to an emotionally present partner mindset.
How Relationship Coaching Works
Relationship coaching focuses on how partners communicate, make decisions, and repair after conflict—specifically under the sustained pressure of high-responsibility lives. My approach is strategic, structural, and focused on the mechanics of your partnership. To move from friction to flow, we optimize four critical areas:
A structural approach to relational mastery.
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We identify the predictable sequence of Triggers → Reactions → Breakdowns
that occurs when stress is high. Once this pattern is visible, you can interrupt the escalation in real-time. -
High-performance lives require high-performance communication. We develop the "muscle memory" needed to surface tension early and express needs clearly, ensuring that professional burnout or external demands do not erode your personal connection.
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Resentment often lives in the gap between unstated expectations. We move from implied roles to clear, shared decisions regarding mental load, household equity, and priorities—eliminating the residual friction of constant renegotiation.
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Since the goal is not the absence of conflict, we focus on the efficiency of the "return to calm." We strengthen your ability to navigate disagreements quickly and cleanly, ensuring they don't lead to the accumulation of relational damage over time.
Relationship Coaching or Therapy: Choosing Your Path
Relationship coaching is forward-focused and non-clinical, designed for couples navigating communication breakdowns, chronic conflict, and decision-making under pressure. For couples residing in California, I also offer licensed psychotherapy for deeper clinical support.
Here's how to choose:
Mycelia Coaching
Strategic & Forward-Focused
Ideal if: You are functional but stuck in repetitive patterns.
Ideal if: Work pressure or life demands are straining the connection.
Goal: You want clarity, structure, and actionable movement.
Status: You are not currently in an acute relational crisis.
Approach: You prefer a non-clinical, confidential strategy.
Mycelia Therapy
Clinical & Depth-Oriented
Ideal if: There is significant emotional distress or instability.
Ideal if: Mental health symptoms or active crises are present.
Goal: You want deep psychological or attachment work.
Status: Unresolved trauma or trust injuries are shaping the dynamic.
Approach: You are specifically seeking licensed psychotherapy.
The Mycelia Framework
See the Pattern
We map the hidden dynamics driving your recurring conflict.
Repattern the System
Interrupt reactive loops and redesign how you respond together.
Build Structure
Create agreements and practices that reduce friction and strain.
Sustain Change
Practice until new patterns become your default response.
Your Questions, Answered
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Couples coaching is forward-focused and skills-based, designed for functional relationships that need better systems. It addresses communication breakdowns, decision-making under pressure, and conflict patterns without requiring clinical diagnosis or deep psychological work.
Marriage therapy goes deeper into attachment wounds, trauma, and mental health concerns. Both are valuable—coaching is for optimization, therapy is for healing. You can learn more about couples therapy and marriage counseling at www.myceliatherapy.com
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Yes. Relationship coaching works by shifting the dynamic between both partners, which requires both people in the room working on the same patterns with the same information. While individual coaching can help you navigate relationship challenges from your perspective, changing how you operate together requires both voices and both commitments.
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I'm a systems thinker who became a therapist, not the other way around. After 15 years in management consulting, I understand how high-performing partnerships operate—and what breaks down under sustained pressure. I focus on building relationship infrastructure, not just processing feelings. We map your conflict patterns, interrupt what's not working, and design systems that actually fit your lives.
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Yes. Most couples come to coaching because they're stuck in repetitive conflict cycles—the same triggers, reactions, and breakdowns on repeat. We identify your specific conflict pattern, then build communication tools that work under pressure: how to surface tension before escalation, express needs without blame, and repair effectively when you miss each other. The goal isn't eliminating disagreement—it's learning to navigate it without accumulating damage.
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All coaching sessions are conducted via secure video call, which allows for scheduling flexibility and the ability to work with couples globally across time zones. Online sessions are just as effective as in-person work for relationship coaching—what matters is the structure, tools, and commitment you both bring to the process.
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The best way to get started is to schedule a free 20-minute consultation using the booking link on this page. During that call, we'll discuss your situation, clarify whether coaching or therapy is the right fit, and answer any questions you have about working together.
If you prefer to reach out first via email, you can contact me at gpdavis@myceliaconsulting.com. I typically respond within 24-48 hours.
